Discussing a Prenuptial Agreement With Your Fiancé

A prenuptial agreement, also known as a premarital agreement or a prenup, is a legally binding contract that is entered into by a couple before they get married. 

Prenuptial agreements can be used to spell out each partner’s financial rights and responsibilities in case of a divorce or death of one partner.

There are many reasons why a couple may choose to discuss a prenuptial agreement. Some common reasons include the following:

A Prenuptial Agreement Can Protect Premarital Assets

If one or both spouses have assets (such as a business, property, or investments) that they want to keep separate in the event of a divorce, a prenuptial agreement can help make sure that those assets remain separate and are not divided as part of the divorce process. 

In the event of a future divorce, a prenuptial agreement will say which assets were owned before the marriage and should not be split as marital property (i.e., property that will be subject to division by the court in the event of a divorce). This can include a business, a house, or investments one partner had before they got married.

A Prenuptial Agreement Can be Used to Spell Out Financial Expectations

A prenuptial agreement can be used to establish how the couple will handle financial matters during the marriage, including issues such as paying debts and managing joint accounts.

There are many ways in which a prenuptial agreement can be used to clarify financial expectations. For example, a prenuptial agreement can be used to:

  1. Establish how joint accounts will be managed: A prenuptial agreement can specify how joint accounts will be handled during the marriage, including who will be responsible for paying bills and making investment decisions.
  2. Specify the payment of debts: If one or both spouses have debts, a prenuptial agreement can specify which debts will be the responsibility of each spouse and how they will be paid.
  3. Establish financial support: A prenuptial agreement can be used to establish financial support for one spouse if there is a divorce or the death of the other spouse. This can include alimony (spousal support) or other financial provisions.
  4. Establish a system for resolving financial disputes: A prenuptial agreement can include provisions for resolving financial disputes that may arise during the marriage. This could consist of mediation or arbitration.

A Prenuptial Agreement Can Help With Inheritance Issues.

One of the main purposes of a prenuptial agreement is to address inheritances and specify how assets will be passed on if there is a divorce or the death of one of the spouses.

If one spouse has children from a previous relationship and wants to ensure that their assets are passed on to those children at the time of their death, a prenuptial agreement can be used to specify these wishes. 

The prenuptial agreement can specify which assets are considered separate property (i.e., property that will not be divided in the event of a divorce) and which assets will be considered marital property (i.e., property that will be subject to division by the court in the event of a divorce).

A Prenuptial Agreement Can Provide Financial Protection in the Event of a Divorce

If there is a future divorce, a prenuptial agreement can be used to establish financial support or other protections for one spouse. This can include alimony (spousal support) or provisions for dividing assets and debts. 

A prenuptial agreement can also specify how the couple will handle financial matters during the divorce, such as the payment of legal fees.

Can Discussing a Prenuptial Agreement Help with Communication Skills?

When you and your future spouse talk about a prenuptial agreement, it can be a chance to talk openly and honestly about money. This can help build trust and understanding in the relationship.

How to Begin a Conversation with Your Fiance about a Prenuptial Agreement

If you are considering a prenuptial agreement and want to facilitate a conversation about it with your fiancé, here are some tips that may be helpful:

  1. Start the conversation early: It is generally best to discuss a prenuptial agreement well before the wedding, as it can be a complex and sensitive topic. Starting the conversation early can give you time to think about your needs and concerns and help avoid any last-minute stress.
  2. Explain your reasons for wanting a prenup: Be open and honest about why you are considering a prenuptial agreement. This could include wanting to protect premarital assets, clarify financial expectations, or provide financial protection in the event of a divorce.
  3. Emphasize that a prenup is not about lack of trust: It is essential to reassure your fiancé that a prenuptial agreement does not reflect a lack of trust in the relationship. Instead, it is a tool that can be used to establish financial clarity and understanding.
  4. Encourage open and honest communication: Encourage your fiancé to be open and honest about their concerns and needs, and try to listen to their perspective without becoming defensive.
  5. Seek legal advice: If you are considering a prenuptial agreement, it is important to seek legal advice to ensure that the agreement is fair and legally enforceable. A lawyer can help you draft an agreement that meets your needs and complies with state laws.

Are There Drawbacks to Asking for a Prenuptial Agreement?

There are several potential drawbacks to asking for a prenuptial agreement:

  1. It can be seen as a lack of trust: Some people may feel that asking for a prenuptial agreement is a lack of trust in the relationship, which can be hurtful or offensive.
  2. It can be emotionally tricky: Discussing a prenuptial agreement can be emotionally challenging, as it involves discussing financial matters and potential conflicts in the event of a divorce.
  3. It can be time-consuming and costly: Drafting a prenuptial agreement can be time-consuming and may require the services of a lawyer, which can be expensive.
  4. It may not be legally enforceable: Prenuptial agreements are subject to state laws, and some states have limitations on what can be included in a prenuptial agreement. An agreement must be fair and drafted properly to be legally enforceable.

It is essential to carefully consider these drawbacks before asking for a prenuptial agreement. If you’re thinking about making a prenuptial agreement, it’s important to talk to your partner about it and get legal advice to make sure the agreement is fair and legal.

Conclusion

It is important to note that prenuptial agreements are not suitable for every couple. If you are considering obtaining a prenuptial agreement, it is essential to discuss the matter with your partner and seek legal advice to ensure the agreement is fair and legally enforceable.

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Tim McDuffey is a practicing attorney in the State of Missouri. Tim is a licensed member of the Missouri Bar and Missouri Bar Association.

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