Protect Yourself: 20 Warning Signs You Need an Order of Protection

In this article, we will explore the warning signs that suggest you should obtain an order of protection. 

Whether you are a victim of domestic violence, harassment, or stalking, this article will help you understand the steps you need to take to protect yourself.

Warning Signs You Should Obtain an Order of Protection

Several warning signs may indicate the need for an order of protection, including:

1. Physical Abuse to You or Your Children

Physical abuse is a clear warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If you have been physically assaulted by a partner or family member, you should immediately seek help. Physical abuse includes hitting, slapping, kicking, or choking.

2. Verbal Abuse

Verbal abuse is another warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. Verbal abuse includes name-calling, insults, and threats. If you are constantly subjected to verbal abuse by a partner or family member, you should seek help.

3. Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is a form of abuse that can be difficult to recognize. It includes behaviors designed to control, manipulate, or intimidate the victim. Emotional abuse includes insults, threats, and isolation.

4. Stalking

Stalking is a serious warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. Stalking includes repeated unwanted contact, following the victim, and monitoring their activities. If you are being stalked by a partner or family member, you should seek help.

5. Cyberstalking or Online Abuse

Cyberstalking is a form of stalking that uses technology to harass or intimidate the victim. It includes sending threatening emails, text messages, or social media messages. If you are being cyberstalked by a partner or family member, you should seek help.

6. Threats of Violence

Threats of violence are a clear warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member has threatened to harm you or your children, you should seek help.

7. Destruction of Property

Destruction of property is another warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member has damaged your property, you should seek help.

8. Intimidation

Intimidation is a warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member tries to control you through fear, intimidation, or manipulation, you should seek help.

9. Harassment

Harassment is a warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member is harassing you through phone calls, text messages, or social media, you should seek help.

10. Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse is a warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If you have been sexually assaulted or harassed by a partner or family member, you should seek help.

12. Control and Isolation

Control and isolation are warning signs that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member tries to control you by limiting your access to friends, family, or resources, you should seek help.

13. Financial Abuse

Financial abuse is a warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member controls your finances or prevents you from accessing money or resources, you should seek help.

14. Drug or Alcohol Abuse That Leads to Violence

Substance abuse is a warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member uses drugs or alcohol to control or manipulate you, you should seek help.

15. History of Violence

A history of violence is a warning sign that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member has a history of violence or has been convicted of a violent crime, you should seek help.

16. Jealousy and Possessiveness

Jealousy and possessiveness are warning signs that you should obtain an order of protection. If a partner or family member is overly jealous or possessive, it can be a sign of controlling behavior.

17. Previous Incidents of Violence or Abuse

Previous incidents of violence or abuse can be a warning sign to get a restraining order. If someone has a history of violence or abuse towards you or others, you should take this seriously and consider getting a restraining order to ensure your safety. 

18. Emotional Manipulation

Emotional manipulation can include guilt-tripping, threatening to harm themselves or others, or making you feel responsible for their emotions. It’s a warning sign of an abusive relationship.

19. Possession of Weapons and Threats to Use Them

If someone possesses weapons and has made threats to use them, this is a clear warning sign that you may be in danger and need to seek help and consider getting an order of protection.

20. Any Behavior That Makes You Feel Unsafe or Threatened

If someone is behaving in a way that makes you feel unsafe or threatened, even if it doesn’t involve physical violence, this is still a valid warning sign that you may need to seek help and consider getting an order of protection to ensure your safety.

What is an Order of Protection?

An order of protection is a legal document that prohibits an individual from engaging in certain activities or contacting another person. 

These orders are designed to protect victims of domestic violence, harassment, or stalking. 

An order of protection may include the following:

  • No contact: This prohibits the abuser from contacting you directly or through a third party.

  • Stay away: This requires the abuser to stay away from you, your home, your workplace, and any other locations that you frequent.

  • Move out: This requires the abuser to move out of your shared home.

  • No communication: This prohibits the abuser from communicating with the victim through various means of communication, such as phone, email, postal mail, text messages, online chat, and any other forms of communication.

  • Custody and visitation: This can restrict or limit the abuser’s contact with any children involved.

  • Surrender weapons: This requires the abuser to surrender any weapons they own.

  • Counseling: This can require the abuser to attend counseling or therapy sessions to address their behavior.

  • Financial support: This can include child support, alimony, reimbursement for damages, or any other types of relief deemed necessary by the court.

  • Selling property: This prohibits the abuser from selling any marital property without the court’s permission.

  • Moving the children: This prohibits a parent from taking the children out of state or the court’s jurisdiction without the court’s permission. 

How to Obtain an Order of Protection

If you are experiencing any of the warning signs listed above, it is wise to consider a restraining order. 

Here are the steps you should take to obtain an order of protection:

  • Contact a domestic violence or victim services agency in your area.

  • File a petition for an order of protection in your local court.

  • Attend a hearing to obtain a temporary order of protection.

  • Have the police serve the order on the abuser.

  • Attend a final hearing to receive a permanent order of protection.

Conclusion

Obtaining an order of protection is vital to protect yourself from harassment, abuse, or threats. It is essential to recognize the warning signs of abuse and take action to seek help. 

If you or a loved one is experiencing or has experienced any form of domestic violence or abuse, you can also reach out to the domestic violence hotline in the United States. 

You can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE). This hotline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and is confidential and free of charge. You can also visit their website at www.thehotline.org for additional resources and information.

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Tim McDuffey is a practicing attorney in the State of Missouri. Tim is a licensed member of the Missouri Bar and Missouri Bar Association.

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